Wednesday, May 22, 2013


We walk around this world with such grief that we have no room for a smile, a laugh or wink. We believe no other human understands our grief.
We fake smiles and tell everyone that we are ok, when in actuality, we are screaming for someone to hear us.
All I want to tell you is this: TELL THEM THAT YOU JUST WANT TO GIVE THEM A HUG. Just give them a hug and a smile and tell them to feel better. A speech is not what they need at the moment, IF you see them pulling away, ask them if they want something to drink.
 They might not tell you, but in their heart, they are grateful for that hug and that smile. It lets them know that you are there for them and you are ready whenever they are ready to share with you.
Do not tell them to stop crying, IF you see them crying. Those tears have meaning and worth and if you can’t handle them, then walk away. MIND YOU. That moment is when they need you most to just be a FRIEND. Don’t you dare tell me, I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH A CRYING PERSON.
JESUS WEPT!!!!!!!!!!!!
The comfort you give them, is not because you are helpless, but it’s because of the love and compassion that’s within your heart. If you feel nothing and are moved by nothing, then I pray that God’s grace finds you very soon. A person can only give what they can give to themselves.

Meaning that if you love yourself and have compassion for your life, then you will be able to offer that to the person next to you. Love one another as you love yourself was the command given to us by God. How can you claim to love a brother or sister, when you do not love yourself? You offer them the best that you have offered yourself. Take care of yourself before you start taking care of another.
I do not mean that you should be selfish with your wealth or refuse to help a person in need, in the name of taking care of yourself first. That will be greediness. Hence taking care of others as you would yourself, means you should love them and do to them what you would expect them to do unto you.
All I can tell you is this. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. If you do not allow yourself to be vulnerable, then you will never know just how much help you need. Your grief should not be used as a shield. It should be a weapon of teaching, nor deviance. Take it and make it your stepping stone to do God’s will. Leave not room for hate. It will only eat you up from inside and you will only have regrets in the future.
Thank the Lord you went through that grief, because if you had not gone through it, you would never have truly known just how capable he is to bring you out of it. If you believe God can pull you through any storm in life, then allow your grief to show and not pretend that it does not exist, or it does not hurt. Do not let God’s grief for his son go to waste. He did it for you and me, and it should not be a shame for you to grasp it and admit your vulnerability before him.
When we walk around life without grief, we do not notice these people walking around us. They are screaming from inside, and all they want is for someone to own up and listen to them. Just give them a hug and they will, maybe, consider you as a friend. Make them smile.
MAY 13, 2013

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Take the time to know her

Lately, i have been reading a book by Charles, R Swindoll, entitled "Dare to Laugh Again." Here is a man who had every right in the Bible to be angry with God, mad at the world and all its joys and happiness. He had every right to be mad, because there was no place were he really belonged. Not Swindoll, but Paul.
Rather than wallowing in self-pity or calling on his friends to help him escape or at least gain relief from these restrictions, Paul sent a surprisingly lighthearted message, and urges the Philippians to be people of Joy.
Just reading about Paul and the request for joy in our hearts, has made me realize that people who seem not to have joy in their hearts, actually do wish they had someone to seriously have a good laugh with. They just need to you put your judgmental assumptions about them and get to know them for who they really are.
Maybe that cold stoned face you see is the only coping mechanism to use and need you to help them get rid of it. Instead, we are so stuck up in our own assumptions and conclusions about them that they find it hard to fit in or relate with you.
So many times when growing up, i used to think my grandma had no sense of humour and was out to make my life miserable. I always thought she was no fun and mean. I tried to get away from her as much as i could.

Looking at the joy and the radiance on her face, i realize that this woman has always been fun in her own way. I just never took the time to get to know her. As the years went by, i began looking back at all those times i had the chance to let her know i was there for her and loved her, and i cried.
The same woman as i realize now has always been fun in her own way.

It takes the love of Jesus toe change one's perspective of others. The Lord just needed to change my heart to see her for who she was and not for what i wanted her to be.
I didn't realize how much i loved her till i walked away from home and grew into a different woman.

She has inexplicable joy on her heart, and needed me to share it with her. I thank God i can be the one now to share that joy with her. The time i spent her here gave me more joy as never before. Although she is sometimes to deal with, as i know i am hard to deal with, she is the most adorable gma one could ever ask for.
The love i have for her now grows everyday as we share our pains, joys and letting our hearts open to each other.
I am still learning much as a Christian, and i do thank the Lord for helping me put hat into practice everyday what i learn from him. Let the joy of knowing the Lord Jesus in your heart, be shared with those around you as you look at them the way he would.
Let their little smiles fill your heart and let those little things they do for you be the core foundations of your love. Do not take them for granted, but give back in return with affection and appreciation.

Get to know him walking with you, laughing with you, angry at you, and dare to laugh with them when they are down. We can't fix them, but God can change us to see the change in them.

Friday, March 1, 2013

The love around us

I woke up this morning with one of the strongest feelings. I could actually put a finger to it. Just day before yesterday, Sandy's mom called me and told me they wanted me to travel with them to Tanzania.
Next week is elections here in Kenya, and i was looking forward to staying and observing whole elections. When she called and asked me, i was almost in tears, for in truth, i had not wanted to travel so far. I had already made plans in my head of how i shall sleep, write my internship report and everything.
I told her, i will call her back later and confirm if i am able to go. The other issue was my visa. I had to have a visa before crossing boarders into another country. Sandy is in Tanzania and my heart should have been racing to see him. It was, but the point was not him. The point was his parents.
They were leaving the country, and they were not going to leave their soon to be daughter-in-law behind. Just that gesture of kindness, brought me to my knees in thanksgiving, for such a family that loves me. They do appreciate me and have accepted like their daughter.
Yesterday, i prayed for my visa to be done in one day, and it was. The lady told me to come back at 3:00p.m to pick it up and I did. It was one of the most amazing prayer answered gifts i have had this year. God's love with the Mora's love was all evident, the moment i met Sandy. He became a blessing in my life and though he does not know this, he enabled me to grow stronger in my faith as i encouraged and walked with him in his faith.
His parents having so much faith and trust in who i am has even lifted the bar higher for the woman i know God intended me to know. Never has he done things for me half way. He has always carried everything through, using all the planned steps. I have watched those around me, love me for me, because he who is in me is not finished yet.
Have you taken a moment to count all the blessings you have had in your life? All those small blessings outweigh the horrible things you believe to have gone through. The small gestures that people offer you, count them all as blessings, for the little love they have within them, has been shared with you.

I felt so much love and joy, that i decided to go for a photo shoot. Hehehehehe.

Yes, i took photos of myself, for i felt beauty, joy, happiness, a strong sense of peace and a bright future. I saw no need to doubt and i had a conversation with my father. All the people that come my way are a blessing in one way or another. They may not see it, but i praise the almighty for them everyday.

The love i have been offered can not be hidden. We may try to be private with our relationships and life, but when you share a happy moment with those you talk to based off that relationship, you help them a lot. You may not know it, but just your feeling free enables them to question their own relationships.
Let the love you have been given shine to others.

Monday, February 25, 2013

My Neighbour

The Standard Golden Rule "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and body" and "you shall love your neighbor as yourself." If you take a look at this and  believe it is Christianity, then think again. In all religious views in the world, we have the same golden rule.
In Christianity, the Golden Rule is expressed by Jesus in these words: "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets" (Matthew 7:12).
In Judaism, we find the Golden Rule expressed in these words: "What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. That is the entire Law; all the rest is commentary" (Talmud, Shabbat 31a).
Brahmanism is a form of Hinduism , "This is the sum of duty: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done to you" (Mahabharata 5:5157).
In Buddhism, the Golden Rule is expressed this way: "Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful" (Udana-Varga 5:18). Again, this version of the Golden Rule is not telling us to do good to others, but only not to hurt others.
The Golden Rule is Islam is expressed as, "No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself" (Sunnah).
The Golden Rule in Confucianism is expressed as, "Surely it is the maxim of loving-kindness: Do not unto others what you would not have them do unto you" (Analects 15:23).
The Golden Rule in Taoism is expressed as, "Regard your neighbor's gain as your own gain and your neighbor's loss as your own loss" (T'ai Shang Kan Ying P'ien).
In Zoroastrianism, the Golden Rule is expressed as, "That nature alone is good which refrains from doing unto another whatsoever is not good for itself" (Dadistan-i-dinik 94:5).
The Baha'i version of the golden rule is, "Lay not on any soul a load that you would not wish to be laid upon you, and desire not for anyone the things you would not desire for yourself."

How do you treat your neighbour? Do you even know who your neighbour is? Their name?
Can you readily say that in times of distress, you can call them up?

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Friends are the best

I have taken the liberty to thank my friends for the fun times, moments and the love they have shown me. It is not always the easiest thing to thank them for the annoying moments, or the unkind words they have put us through. However, with a small evaluation of self, i have come to appreciate those annoying moments, because they build me as a person.
They have taught me to appreciate the things i can't change, and to embrace the ones i can. Friends are the same ones who will laugh at you and cry with you when you need them. They will give you a shoulder to lean on, and will come to your aid the moment you make an emergency call. 

How can we find such friends??

Have you tried being the best friend you would always want the other friend to be to you? Do you do things to your friend because you expect much in return? Do you hang out with them because they are cool? Do you appreciate the time they take to be with you? Do you listen to them when they talk to you? Are you honest with them enough to tell them what you appreciate and what you don't appreciate about their character and attitude? Have you tried being a good friends to your friends?
I don't mean you make them top priority in your schedules. 
I always said if i wanted my friends to treat me a certain way, I would have to start treating them how they will treat me. If i wanted their respect, i would have to respect them without judging them. 
How you relate with them, enables them to appreciate who you are.

A day does not go by that i do not laugh. Every memory that pops into my head while i am walking puts a smile on my face. It can be a guy walking really fast, which will make me think of Frida Ngalle. It can be a memory of Penguins of Madagascar, which will remind me of my twin brother. It can be a memory of Jackie Chan carton, which will remind of Christine Mukeku. Basketball, which will remind me of Allison Beyer or Richie Yule. Food and Greens, which will remind me of Maureen Kingori and Mariah Wilder. Crazy Friday nights, will remind me of G-net Munyae and Caangu. Speaking about boys and dating advice will remind me of Raija Ochola, Tun Chiqititta, Thandiwe Gumbo. Many more friends have impacted my life, and every time i think of them, my face lits up. 

Just last weekend, I had not money for food in my account, and i had forgotten to pay my electricity Bill. I told a girlfriend of the situation at home, not asking her for anything, and she gave me part of her salary. I refused the money, because i do not know how to take. I know how to give, but when it comes to receiving, i become very reluctant. She knew i am quick to help, but reluctant to receive help. She however, insisted and i took the money. 
When i arrived home that night, i found that my electricity has been turned off. That very moment, i took the money and the requested bill and ran to the nearest Uchumi supermarket to pay the bill. I came back at 8:30 p.m that night with the receipt in hand, and gave the caretaker who turned it back on. That is the moment, i thanked God for friends.
How we impact their lives, enables them to trust us that much enough to entrust us with secrets, love, rescue missions and emergency calls.
They have been there to seek advice, as well as give some. I have had the liberty to pray with them, laugh with them and have crazy fun times together. Learning to appreciate all the good moments you have had together, outlives the bad ones you once had. Don't let that one moment ruin the best moments you have had with each other.